Lyse Links: Sex, Dementia, Crime


I’m at a wedding this week, supporting one of my best friends and enjoying the…cold rainy charms of Kentucky? Ok, maybe I’m not enjoying the weather so much, but I’m happy to be here! But it does mean we have a shorter Lyse Links than usual. Hopefully you won’t mind too much. (If you do, there’s a whole backlog of previous Lyse Links you can peruse!)

if you’re going to wax poetic about male pleasure, you had better be ready to talk about its secret, unpleasant, ubiquitous cousin: female pain.
It’s an astonishing and painful read. And stop to consider, if you read it, that the author’s whole point is only about removing female pain from sex, not actually making sex a pleasurable activity for women!
A gentle and multi-sided look at handling dementia care. Is it right to lie to those with dementia? Is is good for them? How deep do you go with the fiction?
Caring for elders is a hard and complicated thing in many situations, but especially when dementia is at play. I went through it with my own loved owns, and witnessed many others in the process. It can be heart-breaking, uplifting, confusing. Reading this article makes it a little easier to understand.
How do we understand the fall in urban violence? Well, first we have to be aware that there has been a decline in urban violence! In the age of news that moves at the speed of the refresh button, it can be hard to remember what things were like 10, 30, 50 years ago. Articles like this help us recenter and reflect.
Turns out, the National Park Service has its own investigative branch, like the FBI but smaller and maybe…hardier? Certainly more outdoorsy! When complex crimes occur on NPS land, they have to find the truth.
This may not be of general interest, but as a runner, I’m pretty interested in the idea that running–as a sport, a community, a hobby–is taking off in other lands. This long article covers a few long-distance races in China, looks at the businesses behind the races, and ruminates a bit on how running reflects changes in Chinese society.

Off to party!

That’s all from me, I’m off to wedding festivities! What are you up to this weekend?

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Understanding Sierra Burgess is a Loser


Netflix released a new young adult rom com this weekend, Sierra Burgess is a Loser. I’ve been excited about this movie for awhile–Netflix hit it out of the park with recent rom coms like Set It Up and To All the Boys I Loved Before, so I had high hopes for Sierra Burgess. Just before the movie released, I learned something that shot my excitement for this movie through the roof:  Continue reading

I’m Back!


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a little sunshine therapy

It’s June, and, as promised, I have returned.

I missed you all so much, and I missed writing this blog, but hiatus was a good choice for me. This spring was loaded with work and travel and grieving and decisions to be made. It wreaked havoc on my mental and emotional health. Having one less thing to worry about was important.

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exploring gloriously empty trails

But now, I’ve completed my graduate degree. I’ve spent lots of time resting, out of doors, reading, and writing for myself. I’m not 100%, but I’m back. In the past few weeks, I’ve found myself thinking, “I should blog about that,” and now I will.

You can expect the usual book reviews, plus a few deeper dives on subjects I care about. I want to get better at talking about the tough topics, scary as that is to do on a public forum. I’m not certain if Lyse Links will return, but I suspect I won’t be able to stay away. It’s one of my favorites.

I have already scheduled my first (real) post of summer for tomorrow. It’s a doozy, talking about things I’ve never discussed, and I’m a little nervous about releasing it. I can’t wait to see what you think though.

Now it’s over to you! What have you been up to while I was gone? What did I miss?

Hiatus


I wanted to start the new year with a series of posts reflecting on 2017. It was a good year, an eventful year. I moved; traveled; took up running; tried a multitude of new activities; blew past my reading goals; nearly doubled my blog views; grew immeasurably. I wanted to share those accomplishments with you and talk about the future (including my plans to go on hiatus).

2 things got in the way of that:

  1. I’ve been wholly consumed with tackling my 2018 projects and beginning the year as I mean to go on.
  2. I was blindsided by a family tragedy this week.

For my mental health and the success of my degree and career, I’m immediately limiting my online consumption and focusing on “real life.” I’ve included some of my original writing about my already-planned hiatus below.

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My reflections on 2017 and goal-setting for 2018 revealed an important theme: I need to focus this year.

I’m in the throes of what I’ve dubbed Project FREEDOM–the final rush of requirements to finish my master’s program and escape academia. I have bills to pay. A career to build. A book to write.

To do those things, something has to go. Exercise can’t go. Reading can’t go. My job can’t go.

So the blog has to be one of the things I drop for now. That was a hard decision to make, especially on the heels of 2 years with the most traffic I’ve seen. I’m terrified that I’ll never grow back to that. Or at least that I’m throwing it away by not capitalizing on it.

But I need to make the hard prioritizing choices. I need to finish this degree. I need to get settled so that I have the freedom to explore my art and passions more. So I’m going on hiatus here and on Twitter until at least June. I should be done with my degree then, and I’ll evaluate whether I can come back.

Until Then

If you’re new to my blog, welcome! I hope you enjoy my old writing and, if so, that you follow to be notified when I come back. In the meantime, I recommend a few blogger friends:

To my wonderful followers: thank you for joining me on this journey. Blogging has been a joy in my life for 6 years now. I can’t wait to come back and give you the attention you deserve.

Authors/Publishers: I will not be taking books for review until I return. I appreciate your thinking of me, and encourage you to contact one of the bloggers I listed above.

Take care.

Lyse

 

 

Lyse Links: Adoption, texting, and hit songs


I’ve led with some shorter/lighter pieces, but the last few links are hefty. Enjoy!

Texting with Boys — This is an op-ed, so not as thorough as I’d like, but it’s a fascinating look at differences in communication. I have several similarities with the author, including a mostly-female family, plus emphasis on written communication (obviously).

Couple buys street in millionaire neighborhood — in a comedy of errors revealed by one couple’s stroke of astonishing luck, the street in a private high-scale neighborhood is now owned by outside individuals who are scheming ways to make money from their acquisition. Moral of the story: pay your taxes.

Trump’s positive news folder — for someone who doesn’t want to argue politics, I share a lot of political stories. This one caused a Twitter uproar about the President’s delusion. That’s up for anyone’s perception. BUT. If you’ve spent much time in entrepreneurial circles or high achiever optimization literature, this will sound pretty familiar. Starting the day with affirmations or positive thinking is not so unusual. Maybe not normal (or good?) for a president, but not as odd or laughable as many people think it is.

The Children of Strangers — this is an excellent profile of a family that had or adopted more than 20 children. Large families are a point of contention for many reasons, some of which will be obvious in this article. But I like a few things about the article. First, the author makes a serious attempt at relating the story with little commentary or bias. Second, I think it provides a good picture of the trade-offs necessary in any family. No family is perfect. Every decision to say “yes” is also saying “no” to something else. So “yes” to 20+ children means that more children have a family. But it also means less money, (probably) less time with each child, etc. In the end, I think these parents made the best decisions they could based on their values. Those choices probably helped their kids in some ways. And too much time thinking about “what-ifs” will drive you crazy.

The hit song you’ve never heard of (sold more than the Beatles) — The world is a big, diverse place. So much so that you’ve probably never heard of the man who created a hit song that sold more copies than any Beatles song. It’s a great story about music and legacy in Africa.

Has the smartphone destroyed a generation? — Look, I hate doom and gloom generational opinions as much as anyone. But this is a balanced, data-backed article from a generational researcher. Strongly recommended for anyone who cares about generational profiles, the current adolescent generation, or the effects of technology on human behavior.

28/30 Book Review: Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Sex and Science


Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Sex and Science
Mary Roach
Nonfiction/Journalism/Science

Summary

In Bonk, the best-selling author of Stiff turns her outrageous curiosity and insight on the most alluring scientific subject of all: sex. Can a person think herself to orgasm? Why doesn’t Viagra help women-or, for that matter, pandas? Can a dead man get an erection? Is vaginal orgasm a myth? Mary Roach shows us how and why sexual arousal and orgasm-two of the most complex, delightful, and amazing scientific phenomena on earth-can be so hard to achieve and what science is doing to make the bedroom a more satisfying place.

Less taboo than you might think

Let’s just get this out of the way–it’s a book how sex works and what science knows about sex. It’s not erotica. Yes, it talks about erections and orgasm and arousal and all kinds of body parts. But it’s quite tasteful, for the most part. Any adult could read this book and not feel guilty. Continue reading

12/30 Book Review: The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake


The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake
Aimee Bender
Fiction/Fantasy?/Magical Realism

Summary

On the eve of her ninth birthday, unassuming Rose Edelstein, a girl at the periphery of schoolyard games and her distracted parents’ attention, bites into her mother’s homemade lemon-chocolate cake and discovers she has a magical gift: she can taste her mother’s emotions in the cake. She discovers this gift to her horror, for her mother—her cheerful, good-with-crafts, can-do mother—tastes of despair and desperation. Suddenly, and for the rest of her life, food becomes Continue reading